Asked 7/7/2009
|
Is there any way that I can get my husband to sign the paper to agree for our child support without acually getting a lawyer? The divorce is not confirmed decision for us/me yet but definitely the possible option for me now, am thinking about going back to my home country(Japan) for a while at least to get some separation time from him. It could be a month, three months, or I might just stay there for good. Now we have a not a even month old baby girl. He doesn't like the idea of me and a baby going home, yet doesn't even talk about the divorce/paperwork for the child support. He doesn't wanna sign any paper but says that he'll send checks for it if it comes to it. I've contacted Legal on base since he's active duty, they said they can make things official(Notary) but can't help us with settling down on anything, we need to get a lawyer in town if we don't agree on some. But I'm housewife now and I'd managed to transfer some money before he took me off his account, I'm living off my savings and also having the possible divorce, can't and don't wanna afford the lawyer. So my first question is that can I get my husband sign the child support agreement without involving a lawyer and while separation, not a divorce? And if we need to fight for custdy for a baby, does he get a better chance since I'm a stayinghome-mom now and he has a steady pay check? |
Answer 1/1 - Submitted 7/7/2009
Technically, you don't need to get a lawyer. Its recommended because they can give you legal advice, and possibly mediate between the two of you to agree on terms. If the two of you can agree on the terms of your divorce on your own, you can eliminate the cost of the lawyer. Its not common to have signed child support paperwork during a separation, but if you want to draw up your own contract, the military legal department can notarize it for you. If not, you will have to trust that he will send you payments.
If you fight for custody, he has little to no chance of it being granted to him. First off, custody is generally granted to the mother. Secondly, since he is active duty in the military, his work hours could change at any time, he will have to be deployed, and will be unavailable to raise a child full time. The military would not allow him to have full custody, but they will mandate that parts of his paychecks go to you for the child's care. After a divorce, you will no longer be considered a dependent of his, but the child will be. And he will be held financially responsible.
Since you are just in separation mode right now, you can probably avoid a lawyer. But when it comes time for a divorce (should you choose to have one), you should probably get one to make sure all the terms are fair and agreed upon.
Good luck!
Type your Answer in the box below and post your answer.
I have received a request to sign a wiaver of service for modification of parent child relationship. this includes child support. i have been unable to get an appointment with a lawyer by the deadline to have them look at it. i would prefer not to have to go to court, as he lives 8 hours away. and...
My husbands ex wife is getting 608 a month from my husband he makes 15.50 an hour and because he works overtime at the time of court. now my step son has lived with us for almost 4 months and my husbands ex wife who had my step son only 2 years thinks she deserves to keep the child support we cannot...
I am a mother representing myself. i first filed through the state for child support for my 5 yr old. the state took about a year to get started on my case. i was served in june along with my ex (we were never married). i have not recieved any support from him in the last 3 years. he has since then...
|
I have received a request to sign a wiaver of service for modification of parent child relationship.... |
|
Paying child support when we have the child My husbands ex wife is getting 608 a month from my husband he makes 15.50 an hour and because... |
|
Child custody and support legal forms? I am a mother representing myself. i first filed through the state for child support for my... |
|
My husband is paying child support a for a child that may not be his. When my husband was first receiving the child support papers before the divorce was final,... |
|
I need to know how to get child support? I have filed for a divorce last year in march,i think.anyways,it has been a year and me and... |
|
Unmarried parents of 1 child want agreement of shared parenting and no child support in ohio Ended relationship with mother of my child. we never married. we agree that neither of us... |
See more Child Support questions
Ask A Question
Ask a new question about
Child Support: